Habits – 3 things to do to suss them out

Habits we all have them. They could be good ones or bad ones. Whatever they are, they inadvertently define us and how we are perceived by others.

The problem arises when these habits have a negative effect on others and subsequently put us in a bad light.

In communications, it could be talking too much, not giving clear instructions, or simply typing away on your mobile when someone is speaking to you. For better or for worst all these actions sent out signals to the people around you and what they mean to you.

Whatever the case, this would cost you diminishing social capital. People whom you might have irked will start distancing themselves from you. In the workplace, it might even have an adverse effect on your career.

In most cases, sometimes people might not say it out loud about their displeasure, but be assured they will take note of your bad habit. If done frequently, these habits will be perceived as part of your DNA and people will expect the habit to exhibit itself.

You may be tolerant of other people bad habit but other might not think the same way as you do. You might be want to be careful to those who matter most.

Even those, who tolerant your bad habits, they have their limits.

If you are aware of your bad habits and you can somehow managed it then the effect might be minimised.

However in most cases, we sometimes have these bad habits and might not even know we are exhibiting these bad habits. In some oblivious cases, you might even be the last to know of your bad habits.

So what can you do?

Get feedback.  A good reliable source is from family, friends and colleagues. They are those whom you spend most time with and have your best interest at heart and you would definitely get some good feedback. Remember how you perceived yourself and how people perceive you are two different matters.

Be more cognizant of comments made about you. Have different people told me about the same behavior?

Lastly, what you could do is to ask yourself if this were to happen to you, how would you like it?

But getting inputs on these 3 questions you can get confirmation of your negative habits. Conceive a concerted plan to change, and stick to it. In time, it will help you remove your bad traits and improve your social image.

I believe no human being wants to be remembered negatively. In today’s quick to condemn world, we need to remove any bad habits and change our change behaviour for the better, lest we end up in someone’s bad books.


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